I know the vast majority of the forum will probably reply to this as tl;dr but I know that a select few, and hopefully some more senior (As in age) will have some tips as to what I should do or how to prepare for this really large step in life.

 

For those of you who know me, really well, you know that I've been battling depression before November last year. Last November my best friend (And also a forum member here - armedtotheteeth) lost his life in a single car accident. Of course at the age of 17 I stupidly thought that we were all invincible and did not need to worry about death yet. This was a really bad wake up call for me and all of my friends. Since then I've been on three different kinds of depression medications, Welbutrin, Prozac, and now I'm on Celexa. None of them are working. It's a stupid problem and I don't really want to deal with depression but it has been running in my family from both sides for 2 generations back, which is highly uncommon because 60 years ago depression wasn't big at all and still my grandparents were taking meds. I have been quite suicidal in the past and while a lot of you may find it funny that I’ve had dreams and thoughts about killing myself it has really been very disturbing to me. I’ve recently gotten a therapist and my doctor has been switching my meds as soon as she can so we can find a pill that works. What are your guys’ opinions on these things? I’ve talked to people who have depression, not bullshit teenage stuff but depression (If you don’t know the difference let me explain quickly – My life sucks because my girlfriend broke up with me, have zero friends, and didn’t get asked to a party. This is typical teenage bullshit whereas what I have is – My life is great, I have a car, cell phone, girlfriend, lots of friends, have 2 jobs and a lot of income coming my way soon and yet I still feel like my life is in shambles… That is depression) and they said that their lives have really been saved by this medication because they haven’t had a happy life until they got the medication to help their brain chemistry. Should I keep taking these pills even though I think they’re destroying me? Perhaps I should switch to illegal alternatives like marijuana because back when my depression hadn’t surfaced I found that using pot brought me happiness really easily but then I always felt like shit afterwards.

 

Another issue that I’d like to bring up is that back in March I turned 18.. While a lot of people may think this is awesome and cool I have realized suddenly what my life is going to be coming to. Even though I live in one of the richest suburbs in the USA that doesn't mean that my family is going to help me at all on my trip to college and/or moving out. This means that I have to pay for my whole college education (Unless I can get some scholarships, which I highly doubt) and my room and board depending if I decide to move out or not. I’m kinda leaning towards not moving out just because of the fact that my parents are still supportive of me and would be willing to let me live at their house until I have the money to move out. For those of you who have moved out of their houses and are living by themselves (Perhaps OMP, 0ne, SourceX could answer this? (Sorry for those I missed I really don’t keep tabs on people’s home lives)) what did you do to make sure that you were successful and didn’t go broke right out of the gates?

 

So really all I’m looking for is a few tips on how to survive adulthood, and the reason I’m asking this on myg0t… well, I have no fucking idea why, I just thought it’d be a good idea seeing as how some of us are mature enough to withhold a decent thread.

 

Thanks for reading this if you did, if not gtfo my thread. :P

I have been severely depressed for about the last 3 years. I'm now 19 and just recently realised that my being depressed was just based off of boredom, so i just got out and did more shit. In my opinion all of those depression medication are just placebo effects. For me smoking weed help 100s of times better than that shitty medication. I think being depressed is just a high school thing(in my case at least), because no one knows what they want to do and sort of get into a panic mode thinking that they may as well just kill themself, but that is not the answer, actually it just shows that the depressee was just a pussy and couldnt handle shit on their own.

 

this is just my own experienced opinion tho, ive spent a lot of time thinkging about this. good luck

Almost everyone goes through depression throughout their High School lives, whether it's due to romance, grades, or just lack of interest in the topic at hand, what really matters is how you plan it all out. I'm in High School still, and I've suffered from depression, which kind of blew out loud until I found out the cause and solved it for myself.

 

If you plan on living by yourself as soon as you break out of the gates, you should at least prepare for what's ahead. Save up, don't just put in spare change, put in 10% of your paycheck into a bank account, just in case. The world really is a cruel place, but you should just try and make the best of it, don't follow the crowd and set your own pace, and you should stick out. Financial troubles can always be a hassle, which is why you should save up now.

 

Tips on Surviving Adulthood:

 

I haven't reached it yet, good luck! :D.

maybe it's because you feel you have everything already?

 

 

 

 

 

 

well whatever it may be i always find that 5 good friends and a load of pot help.

We all feel down sometimes, get fuck off those shitty meds.

 

I mean ive never been properly depressed so im afraid i cant help you. You just need to try focus on the positives in life think yeh you have your health you have parents who care mate. There are people worse off than you always.

 

And when you hit rock bottom you can only go back up, you just need to think to yourself im not going to be beaten by some bitch who dumps you who cares. Go out meet some friends you dont seem like a bad person from what i know of you on forums... but bearing in mind they are just forums you just need to make effort to get some friends.

 

Keep ur chin up mate.

 

 

 

 

well whatever it may be i always find that 5 good friends and a load of pot help.

 

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First off.. I didnt know you where going through depression. I cant really advise much as im not in your situation but from what Ive read I can say a few things:

 

• You are observant of your situation
  
• You dont feel sorry for yourself
  
• You believe deep down its genetic
  
• You cant see the end of it
  

 

Firstly, you are completely aware of what your problem is, even talkin in the 3rd person, analysing yourself. This is good and bad. It shows you know what the problem is, but it also shows you dont feel in control for your actions or how to fix it.

 

You dont feel sorry for yourself. Good and bad, a little bit of self sympathy woundnt be too bad, i find its usually better to tell someone (maybe your GF) about what really hurts inside your head and try and make them understand. Because one of the most annoying things when your trying to cope with pain is if no one can empathise with you, that normally leads to anger, especially towards the people that you want to understand you. So make sure you try your best to explain it to her.

 

Now this one, i think you can sort out quite quickly. It seems you believe that your depression is caused by a root source, in your grandparents. Now that is a mental thing.. Fair enough they may have been depressed, but this isnt cancer, or aids. It doesnt flow in your blood and you arent born with it. Thinking that because they had it is a reason to accept that you have it isnt good enough, you have to realise that your Pain, is your pain and not everyone elses. Deal with whats going on in your head, not how other people feel about it, not how you think you should conform to it or how you should act but the way your brain tells you too.. Accept your problem and tell it to go fuck itself and that your not gonna fall into depression.

 

Get rid of the pills. Anyone imo who takes pills is giving themselves an alternative reality and giving up on thier free will. When a pill affects parts of brain, that cant be good, especially if you take it every day and eventually think you need it. Obviously im no fucking doctor so you dont have to listen to me its just my opinion.

 

Suicide. Just pretend you dont even know what it is. Nothing is worth suicide. And this isnt from a background in Catholicism im saying this, im saying this from experience. The people who do care, family, girlfriend, friends whoever, will be left wondering what the fuck they have done, why couldnt they help, what could have been different and youd also been an ungrateful bastard for the life youve been given. Think of the poor cunts in Africa, disabled people, blind people, deaf people. You have been born into a perfectly capable body to do good and make youself and other happy. So do it, dont get depressed. We were born to enjoy the short life we have, not question whats wrong with our life.

 

Seek help Tom. Yes the world is fucked, but you dont have to be. You can do your best to live your life and get to where you want to be. Set realistic goals and move from one to another. Until your an old man, and you can look back and say.. It was a good run, I did my best. Because at the end of the day, its up to you how you live your life. You could run away from it all tonight and be half way across the world by tomorrow if you want. It is up to you. Personally i know you will sort yourself out, youve come on here and told the fucking g0t forums your mind, which will be open to criticism and more than likely flames saying kill youself but once again, fuck them.

 

Ive wanted to die, a few years back, Ive tried and I am shit at suicide. lol. Funny but true. Alot, and i mean alot has changed in 3 years. Moved out of my mothers house, moved in with my father (barely see him, hes always on work, he's currently in Virginia. No hes not Korean) Ive settled down at 18 (corny as it sounds). Pult my grades up to straight A's in college. I party as much as my GF will let me, I keep in contact with all my old friends from previous schools, Ive set my goals and im on route to completing them.

 

2 Years ago i wanted to scrape by and pass in school, go to uni, scrape by there too. Get a decent job. And that would be it.

 

Now I want to do a Masters Degree In Engineering with Specialisms in Mechanical Engineering, which takes 5 years. Ive been accepted into that. Hopefully after that I want to do a PhD in Engineering and become Dr.Hartin. Wouldnt that be sweet. Get married, travel the world, Move to Australia to settle down, have kids, get them through school, keep em on track until they are 18, retire. Buy nice things for myself. Relax the rest of my life. ill prob get cancer in there somewhere but none the less I will be happy if everything else goes to plan.

 

I just hope you can do the same Tom. Tell whatever demons are in your head to fuck themselves because you dont need them on your shoulder all your life.

 

Ill leave it up to you to think whatever you want about what ive written. But I want to ask you 1 question. What is the 1 thing in your life that makes you happy, it can be anything, an object, a person, a memory, a vision.. Let me know.

Not gonna quote the post ;x

Couldnt have said it better myself

 

 

 

 

Also it's good to see a thread with some serious replies in it ;D

Anti-depressants - mainly SSRI's, work well for some and destroy others. They can literally kill you. If you haven't been on them for very long, i'd say stick it out. If they just aren't working, I'd suggest an alternative route. I'm sure you've been briefed on some, maybe even tried a few.

^^^^ I didnt read his post but basically (as ive learned) You can either put up with the shit, or end it. That sounds harsh but thats about the jist of it. Life has more downs than ups for most people. Im 24 almost 25 and still live at home. Ive had girls cheat on me with best friends, ive had best friends betray me for stupid shit, ive had jobs shit on me, ive had hobos spit at me and i think about killing myself EVERYDAY, but i havent.

 

Honestly i dont think anyone can tell you anything supportive. Growing up is your dilemma, we all have to face it sooner or later.

 

Drugs and or alcohal only mask the problems. Ive been an alcohalic for about 3 years now and it really hasnt helped. (and i mean i used to wake up and start drinking, and i still drink basically everyday, ALOT) As much as you want help for this there really isnt anything anyone besides yourself can do about it. U have to suck it up and be a man. Thats what growing up is all about. Being able to take the hits from life and saying "fuck you"

 

That sounds stupid but its jsut my opinion. Hope you make it to my age. :happysad:

I'm a sophomore in college right now, and I can tell you man, you're the not the only person who has gone through a thing like this. I don't know what type of depression you suffer from (I myself suffer from seasonal depression; winter months are a bitch), but I can tell you one thing: get off the medication. It only dopes you and makes you more resistant to those said drugs you are taking.

 

If you do have depression, and don't thing the medication is helping, then the first thing you should do is tell someone you have a problem. I've never seen anyone whose gotten better doing things by themselves and not telling anyone about it. Be it counseling (which is great, because depending on which college you're going to, they offer free counseling).

 

This is a serious question that I hope you'll answer back: Do you play World of Warcraft, or any other MMORPGs in general?

 

Hope this helps in someway.

One thing i should've mentioned in my original post:

 

I graduated in 2000 and i know for a fact that in different cities and schools and years there are more "hurdles" you have to face. My school had a little over over 600 students. 9, 10, 11, and 12th grade total. And when i moved to Georgia and found out most schools had over 1000 students for 3 grades i shit myself.

 

So my opinion that i posted is just my opinion, and what i experienced when i was growing up. Being one of the older people here (except for maybe 5 or 6 others) i hope my post wasnt too harsh, but i honestly think someone closer to your age and having to deal with what you deal with can give you better guidance.

Get off those meds man, they don't do shit.

 

Look at it this way, if meds worked for this stuff then there would be no such thing as depression in North America, not to mention they can also have very nasty side effects. You do realize that you have a problem right now, so at least your not too far gone, what you need to do is get out there with your friends and live it up, you will feel 100x better.

just chill out, dont worry about shit so much. life's a bitch for everyone. but dont take it too seriously, no one gets out of it alive ;)

Kill yourself.

Holy shit..

 

 

I was expecting at least ONE person to have posted tl;dr yet, jeeze. What's wrong with you guys?

 

skankuser1: No, fuck MMOs, I'm not addicted to the computer despite my huge post count, I haven't even really been on the boards since today because I've been trying to catch up on my schoolwork so I can graduate from HS.

 

I have told someone, for one I've told my doctor, the school shrink, and even my parents who both have depression. I've told my as well girlfriend and she's.. well, getting sick of hearing how some days are good ones and how some days are bad ones. She also yells at me and tells me that it's all in my head and that I just need to suck it up... I hate her now but hell, the sex is good, so I'm going to keep her around until she moves away during summer ;)

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Captain Morgan: Thanks for the tips, I'll be sure to get out of the house and date girls who aren't going to cheat on me with best friends. :x

 

Seriously though, I don't know what possessed me to come for help on this topic here, but it surely seems to be the most mature thread there has been in months. Rofl.

 

tAct1cS: Yea, I've done my research on them too, but I'm thinking now that I should just try them all and see if any of them work. If nothing works then I'll be sure to get the fuck off of them and switch to some other alternatives like lots and lots of exercise and more friends (I do have plenty of friends, it's just that they're not that great of friends.)

 

[myg0t]Hoad: wtf, when did you get into myg0t? ;P

 

DieseL: Thanks for the serious reply,

 

Now this one' date=' i think you can sort out quite quickly. It seems you believe that your depression is caused by a root source, in your grandparents[/quote']

Depression IS genetic and it runs in my family, while I'm not saying that I'm doomed to have it, besides the fact that I already do, it's just that it's a possibility.

 

 

Get rid of the pills. Anyone imo who takes pills is giving themselves an alternative reality and giving up on thier free will.

 

I talked to my best friend's (The one who died) dad about this issue. He brought up the fact that he used to feel the same exact way about this until his wife was recently trying to commit suicide because of depression. He was so lost and confused as to why she would want to try and kill herself when they had two new kids, one being 3 and another being 1 (The three year old being my now dead best friend) He was angry at the fact that she had to take medication to feel any better but after a while he realized that his wife is not OK mentally without them, even before she started taking them. People DO have these problems, they're not just in your head... well, actually they are but that's talking about it in the literal sense :P

Suicide. Just pretend you dont even know what it is. Nothing is worth suicide. And this isnt from a background in Catholicism im saying this' date=' im saying this from experience. The people who do care, family, girlfriend, friends whoever, will be left wondering what the fuck they have done, why couldnt they help, what could have been different and youd also been an ungrateful bastard for the life youve been given. Think of the poor cunts in Africa, disabled people, blind people, deaf people. You have been born into a perfectly capable body to do good and make youself and other happy. So do it, dont get depressed. We were born to enjoy the short life we have, not question whats wrong with our life.[/quote']

Rifk. I'd thought about that as well, but some times it seems right to just leave a couple of letters for the people I know explaining that there wasn't anything they can do, it's kinda scary that I've had a plan for a couple days on how exactly I'd do it and then do it in my dreams. :\

 

Seek help Tom. ... It is up to you. Personally i know you will sort yourself out' date=' youve come on here and told the fucking g0t forums your mind, which will be open to criticism and more than likely flames saying kill youself but once again, fuck them.[/quote']

I'm trying to figure out why no one has tried to convince me to off myself yet, it's kinda distrubing...

 

 

I just hope you can do the same Tom. Tell whatever demons are in your head to fuck themselves because you dont need them on your shoulder all your life.

 

Yea, I'm working on it, I just want to stick throught the anti-depressants and try to figure out what's wrong with my life.

 

 

 

I'll leave it up to you to think whatever you want about what ive written. But I want to ask you 1 question. What is the 1 thing in your life that makes you happy' date=' it can be anything, an object, a person, a memory, a vision.. Let me know.[/quote']

My best friend Cameron Mitchell-Goulette, in the least gay way possible. He was like my brother, and now he's gone.

 

Runner up would have to be my car, if I just had some more money to put into her. :P

 

c0balt2: Rofl, I act pretty much the same as I do on the forums as I do IRL.. I don't let people walk all over me and I support racism openly and get the shit kicked out of me for it. ;P

I've got plenty of friends, but I don't fit into any groups in school even though I've got one or two friends in each of those groups. Uhm, lemme explain that better... I've got about one or two friends in each group, like.. the skaters, My friends Sean and Jared. I don't know jack shit about skateboarding though and so I really don't fit in with their whole group. Same goes for the Jocks, Stoners, Preps, etc. etc.

 

TakeshiSC: 20% of my paychecks go into my savings account and so far I have.... $500. Rifk. I blew all my money on a new computer, but I'm going to start to have to save more aggressively now.

 

RetardMaster: Thanks for the well thought out reply. I don't know what smoking marijuana and anti-depressants will do to my brain though, and I'm not exactly too keen on finding out the hard way.

 

Oh, and don't fucking call me a pussy or I'll... rape your dog and kill your family.

 

 

EDIT:

Geesus;472629']Kill yourself.

 

Finally someone said it.. Thank you!

Finally someone said it.. Thank you!

 

ahhaha sorry i couldnt resist <3

 

seeing as i have never been depressed at all my entire life, i was kinda weird last year where i didnt talk much and i enjoyed being alone, that was just me being weird, not being depressed. so i cant help you out :(

Suck it up.

 

Also cocks.

 

Look at it like this. People have had harder times and dealt with it better.

 

Again, also cocks.

Do a sport, the best thing ever for you body. A natural high that feels great. Go swim a few laps, get a bike and explore a park. In my opinion you just need to stimulate your mind in an active way. If you went to an art show, it would not fucking help, nor would it to run a marathon. Exploration and stimulation of the body and mind work the best. You get all three if you are on a bike in the park, you get stimulation of the body with swimming without working hard.

 

 

Oh oh here is a good one. To stimulate your mind, look at your hand. Think to yourself "This is my hand" then close it . Ponder to yourself how you can control your hand (works better for me if i open my hand). Even though we wall know the brain sends information to our hand, how does it happen. Then try to move a body part you don't have, like a 3rd leg.

I've got depression in my family too and sometimes I get that overwhelming feeling but usually it just passes. When it doesn't, I get out and do something I enjoy to forget about my problems, whether it's a movie, hanging out with people, drugs(very rare, short term solution) or guitar, etc. Honestly, as cliche as it may sound, music's done a huge part in making me into a different person. I used to be a bitchy little kid but my music does it for me now I guess. Granted, I come across as kind of an angry person but generally I'm a happy guy. As far as life experience and the advice it brings, I'm only 17. Not a whole lot of experience aside from some average problems, parents divorced, insights to what people are really like, and a short period of alcohol abuse which I stopped due to my parent's history of alcoholism. I know that depression can be fucking crippling because it's in my genetics...sister has it, mother has it, grandmother on father's side...all over the place. When it's there the only thing I can do to feel better is find someone who understands what it's like and have a discussion. It's not therapy, it's just talking with friends. Find one of your more intelligent friends, I don't mean grades just smart I'm sure you know what i mean, and talk. Consider what's made you happy in the past and revisit it if you can. I'm just a dumb kid, I know that much, but for what it's worth I hope you get over it.

I have depression, but it`s high school depression, which are grades / parents. I don`t talk to anyone about the problems or take meds. But w.e :/ I just try to get through the days. Even though this may seem to make me emo, im not. Just parents are bitchez & shytttt.

 

Lifes a bitch.

 

Then try to move a body part you don't have, like a 3rd leg.

 

qft

Before this thread totally goes off the deep end about the whole depression thing, I've also got the whole other concern about what to do to prepare about moving out and how to handle with all of the new stresses that are going to come of it (Like tax's, bills, just regular shit like that)

 

I suppose most of you are right that I should just fucking suck it up but some days it just seems really hard. While I'm sure that some of it is in my head I'm pretty sure that there IS a chemical imbalance in my brain because it IS genetic and it IS in my family.. everyone including my Mother, Father, Grandmother on my mothers side, Biological grandfather on my mothers side, Grandmother on my fathers side, and my Grandfather on my fathers side.

 

 

 

Then try to move a body part you don't have, like a 3rd leg.

 

Like.. my penis? ZING ;) (Yes, I understand this is insulting myself, I'm just in a better mood now. :P)

Before this thread totally goes off the deep end about the whole depression thing, I've also got the whole other concern about what to do to prepare about moving out and how to handle with all of the new stresses that are going to come of it (Like tax's, bills, just regular shit like that)

 

I suppose most of you are right that I should just fucking suck it up but some days it just seems really hard. While I'm sure that some of it is in my head I'm pretty sure that there IS a chemical imbalance in my brain because it IS genetic and it IS in my family.. everyone including my Mother, Father, Grandmother on my mothers side, Biological grandfather on my mothers side, Grandmother on my fathers side, and my Grandfather on my fathers side.

 

 

 

 

 

Like.. my penis? ZING ;)

just the stress of moving out, or moving out advice?

 

really, mental stimulation can work wonders... there is a CD out there that has music played to the Brain waves of a relaxed happy person, and it is suppose to link up with your brain pattern and make you feel better.

 

 

lol, nice... and laugh more, it opens your blood vessels alowing for more blood to flow in the brain so you can relax

I have depression, because I've come to the realization that I have no need for material goods, only social fulfillment, yet my parents push grades and order rather than social fulfillment. They've raised me to be a nutball and it took 2 years for me to learn proper social behavior. I'm now constantly reminded that I'm going to fail in life because my grades suck (although my parents have a 3 million dollar net worth but virtually no friends and we rarely see our family. They didn't even sleep in the same room on their anniversary).

 

I want to ask them in the heat of an argument (ok, are you successful? Yes.

 

Are you happy? ...)

 

But I'm too nice for that, plus my mom has had some trouble because my uncle died recently.

 

I also look back and think if I was a little kid I'd probably be ashamed of myself and this brings a tear to my eye (because face it being a little kid is perfect, ignorance is bliss).

 

Drugs (pot, alcohol, etc.) don't help but they're fun lol.

 

If you can't tell I blame my parents for alot of my problems.

hey man, i understand what you're going through (even tho ive never experienced depression to that degree), heres what im suggesting.

 

go out and see the world. save up a lot of money and just take a year off and go see what its like out there. im not talking about europe and shit. go to places like africa, asia, australia and other shitholes ;P. it will give you new perspective on life.

 

another thing you can look into is going into private military contractors aka mercenary work, and start fighting in third world wars in banana republics. this way you get to experience life in a whole different way. i have buddies that did this and they're the coolest people ive ever met. a lot of times i realized the problem in my life is that im living in a boring routine. go to school, go out with friends, etc, so i seriously considered this.

 

anyways, change is good, and joining mercenrary groups are a hell of a radical change. maybe you need change in your life or w/e, at least thats for me. i wish you good luck and dont be let down man.