Posted June 15, 200816 yr This was in some persons email. Good morning, Larry . . . Here is the "game plan" as to proceedings as I recall: 1. Phone Effie on her cell phone answering machine to meet with you, she and I in my office at a predetermined date and time. That will be our only meeting. You may apologize to her and tell her that you have already confessed to me and God for your inappropriate behaviour and your part in acting out sexually before marriage, especially since you are engaged to be married which is close to adultery and in the very least, before marriage with anyone. You may also tell her that in no way was your prime attention to "use her" and that you cannot in anyway put yourself in the position of it happening again. Before God, you now have a clean record. You may tell her that it was because of your acting out that brought you to the Living Waters programme in the first place and so you have also been unfaithful to the programme for which you were a leader. You broke trust too to a person who is accountable to you (do not mention Chris's name). You were unfaithful to your fiancee and to Andrew. I feel if you tell her these things, she will see that it is wrong for either of you to peruse this. 2. You will e-mail Denise (not MSN) and tell her, you have confessed to me everything including details . . . you have confessed your unfaithfulness to Wendy, your son, Living Waters and regret your part in having done so before God. You will tell her that it is your plans to move to Colorado and make Wendy your wife and to begin a new life. You will tell Denise that your confession before God, Effie and me along with asking for forgiveness with a contrite heart has put you in a renewed life with Christ. Your whole reason for going through LW was to help you move on and deal with an addictive cycle that has its roots in your childhood and always wanting to please others, never wanting to offend and never wanting to deal with things that might hurt others so you continue on in an addictive way. You will tell Denise that even though she is a friend of Effie's, it is wrong for her to be a matchmaker that would indeed put you into a situation of possibly acting out again. You will very graciously ask her not to enter into conversation with her about Effie or anything else dealing with your personal life and that conversations with her on MSN or in person will end with regards to any of this. 3. You will ask Wendy's forgiveness for your part in "acting out" with her. You may tell her that you love her and it would be good to make a mutual agreement that there would be no more acting out with her until after marriage. You will be accountable to each other. You may tell her that you have confided in me and truly want to make your "new" relationship with her a God-honouring one. You do not put a wedge between your relationship with God and Wendy that would be a deterinant to both of you being loaded with his blessings and of course that passes on to both your son and hers. 4. You will find out ways to keep you from going on the NET for porn or procuring it in any other manner. 5. A suggestion . . .that you, Chris and I meet once a week until you go to Colorado and we go as far as we are able through the 15 session course on "Treating Sexual Addiction". Should you want at the end, and for a small fee, you will receive a certificate from the American Association of Christian Counsellors (as well as, I think, a one year's membership). If you do this, it would prepare you even more for ministry in Colorado as well as help you, Chris and me to understand ourselves. If Chris wants me to take over when you leave for Colorado, this would be a good start. 6. It is not necessary for you to keep confessing to others what has happened between you, Effie and Wendy. You have already done this. It is not necessary for you to share this at the Saturday morning's breakfast and it is not necessary to share this with Chris. 7. Remember, you walk as a clean person . . .you have been washed in Christ's healing and Living Water. Take on the day with your head raised high and as a new person . . . You are His son and you have a rich inheritance and God is ready to bless both of us. Love in Him, Don TOO LONG DIDN REEEEAD? That will be our only meeting. You may apologize to her and tell her that you have already confessed to me and God for your inappropriate behaviour and your part in acting out sexually before marriage, especially since you are engaged to be married which is close to adultery and in the very least, before marriage with anyone. 4. You will find out ways to keep you from going on the NET for porn or procuring it in any other manner. :naughty:
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